PUNCH
A lady’s message to me reads…
“My aunt introduced me to a widower three years ago. When I met him, he was three years into mourning his wife and told me that although he liked me very much, he was not in a hurry to remarry, as he wanted his children (two sons) to be through with their university education before bringing another woman into his household.
“Some months down the line, he introduced me to his only sister and children. Since then, it’s like I am the one running his house back home.
He lives in the city but that’s just a few hours’ drive from our community and he visits home every few weeks. When he is home, he doesn’t want me out of his sight, except when I am at work. I am the eldest child of our parents.
“The problem is that I am not happy with how the relationship is going up till now.
Before you say that I am being desperate, remember that this is the third year that we have been together. What is stopping him from taking me to the altar?
“First, the excuse was that he wanted to see his children graduate from the university and be less dependent on him economically.
After the children moved overseas, he came up with an excuse using the house he is currently building.
“I told him that it makes no difference to me because the house he already has in the village is a very comfortable bungalow and that he is not a tenant in the house he lives in the city.
A lot of things are crossing my mind because I don’t want to end up missing other opportunities that are coming my way.
“My cousin is inviting me to relocate to another city for a job. His friend opened a restaurant there and needs a trusted person who can manage the place for him.
The pay is good and they will provide accommodation.
Please, what advice do you have for me?
I am a teacher in a private school. I turned 41 years old in October. Thank you.’’
From Oby…
I actually have a problem with delaying the pursuit of your dream for anyone, especially for someone who isn’t doing the NEEDFUL, after you have been a part of their life for a significant amount of time.
Don’t bring up the issue of marriage again.
What I know about MEN is that they need no prodding once it is in their heart to make you a part of their lives.
If they are letting you prod them in that direction, it is because somewhere within them, they are not just that into you.
It is now time to be a little selfish with your own time and efforts.
Take the job offer from your cousin.
