BY CHUKWUNETA OBY
Our men are part of the reason there are so many square pegs in round holes in the system.
Take for example a situation where ladies who are given better employment opportunities are not necessarily those who have what it takes to do the job but those who have no qualms sleeping their way to wherever their lot can be changed for good.
The struggles of a relation (before she relocated abroad out of frustration) are still vivid in my memory.
She had three Masters degrees but went through a lot searching for a job.
When she finally found an opening that would have changed her life, she met a stumbling block.
That stumbling block was in the form of a top shot in the organization, who insisted she would be meeting his sexual needs, before they can hire her.
Recently, I met a lady at the gym and we began to talk about life generally.
She told me that she worked with a federal government parastatal in Abuja and went into details about the many drama that play out in such settings.
She mentioned how supposedly married women out-do themselves to go on overseas trips with the bosses.
According to her, if these women fail to play ball satisfactorily, their promotion could go to their rivals.
According to the story that a young lady shared in her video blog.
A man came to her rescue (accommodation) at a time she was stranded.
Same man would later begin to accuse her of being disrespectful and ungrateful.
She did not deny receiving substantial assistance from him. But she said that she was finding it increasingly difficult to keep being “nice” when the man formed the habit of encroaching on her space.
Apparently, her mention of ‘’space’’ miffed the man.
He didn’t understand what “my space” was doing in a reality that his money created.
Was she not well informed!?
Dear men,
It is not every young lady that saunters into your space that calls for your sexual attention.
A lot of them are just vulnerable. And should therefore not be subjected to experiences that could damage them.
The times are dire, emotionally, socially and economically. And a lot of young girls are vulnerable right now.
It has probably become easier and most tempting to “do as you like’’ with the ones who cross your path desperately but before going that route, stop for a minute and imagine your own daughter, sister or even wife in that other pair of shoes and then go ahead and give them the kind of experience you prefer yours goes through in the hands of another.
