CHUKWUNETA OBY FROM PUNCH
Another message that I received reads…
“I know what you are talking about because I have seen it happen. My uncle travelled to another country and came back after two years and met his wife with eight months’ pregnancy.”
When it comes to core sexual inclination or need, it’s always a tough battle between nature/biology and morality. Some women are highly sexual and cannot cope in any setting that suppresses their core.
My only grouse is the pregnancy she had the audacity to carry in his house.
If someone is man enough to put you in the family way, he should be man enough to support you! Women should also begin to do marriage with less long throat and more reality.
Can you really cope in that seeing-him-once-in-a-year marriage?
It’s called being true to yourself
In a situation where his ‘something’ is not on active duty again (probably due to age or health challenges) …have you two agreed on alternatives to sexual intimacy and satisfaction?
Have you taken time to guide him on how to pleasure you with sex toys or his hands?
I am not favourably disposed to the penchant for peeping out for a sexual fix when couples have not really explored practical solutions to their challenges.
My uncle that goes to exercise at a popular square in town has always said that it’s the married women that are out of control these days. He said ‘Those women can brazenly undress a man with staring.’
Let this also be an eye-opener to our men…what are you not doing right in that marriage? It is not enough to give her the Mrs title …are you being a husband in every sense of the word?
We all have needs and expectations in marriage…are you trying your best?
Are you doing the needful?
Are you giving as much commitment (as you expect of her) in that marriage?
Before being a married woman, she is firstly a human…a human with needs and expectations.
Life becomes complicated when we force the super-human garb on someone who is grappling with being human…like every one of us.
Dear young men, pray to not end up in a marriage with an adulterous woman. Most times, they really don’t have any reason to be that way.
The one I know was married to a vibrant young man (in his late 30s) then, tall, dark and handsome.
He used his contacts to get her a job. She travelled abroad to have their babies.
When she claimed that salaried job was not fulfilling her, he raised funds for her to start going to Turkey for business.
