CHUKWUNETA OBY FROM PUNCH
The story that a friend shared with me recently read, “My cousin had the misfortune of marrying a particular lady. He had a son from a previous marriage, met this beautiful woman and remarried. She feigned pregnancies and miscarriages. She had a butcher from whom she bought (animal) blood to feign the miscarriages. Her friend and partner in crime spilled the beans when they had fallout. My cousin took her to a doctor and it was discovered that the so-called scar on her tummy was not from fibroid-surgery but for hysterectomy. Her womb had been removed. My cousin never recovered from the betrayal till he died.”
From Oby…
Someone said that a lot of the brokenness women go through is the reason for realities like this.
What anybody went through isn’t enough to soil their energy (and standing with God, particularly) with certain lies and deception.
Maybe we will understand better when we realise that it’s not about men/women (and their acceptance of our truth) but a right standing with God, and then the self…ultimately.
Don’t mislead anybody and pray nobody misleads you too. And if they do, may life set you free from their clutch.
You will not miss any chances that are truly meant for you. But if you insist on buying that reality with lies and deception, you will not escape the consequences.
It’s always advisable to not let a significant other stumble on what they SHOULD know about your truth, before you open up.
The truth that you willingly tell and the one that circumstances forced you to admit are never received with the same energy.
I mean, the deception would probably continue if you were not caught pants down.
If the matter is grave, firstly tender a humble apology.
A humble apology has no justifications or excuses, mind you.
Then, give them the option of moving on with their lives, if they can’t get themselves to deal with your truth.
Sometimes, giving them a break offers a clearer perspective on issues and calms nerves faster.
What you don’t do is hold it against anybody for how they choose to process their feeling about your truth.
The mind doesn’t take permission to react to reminders of a hurt or trauma.
Once the mind has been disappointed or deeply hurt by a setting, something about that setting will always stir up unease in it.
